Author’s note: This is a recollection of my events from a year ago. There is no need to panic.
I get the results of my endoscopy. I have a large ulcer in the duodenum as well as several smaller ulcers. They are still feeding me whole units of blood (I think it was five total) as well as a continuous bags of plasma. I will eventually develop ascites, which is fluid retention in the abdominal cavity. In a couple of weeks a procedure will be performed where that is drained.
I move from liquid diet to unrestricted diet. That means I can have anything, despite my diabetes. I order lasagna from the menu and it is surprisingly one of the best lasagnas I have ever eaten. Later in the evening a nurse notes that I am diabetic and has me put back on the diabetic menu.
Early in the morning I have a strange encounter with the phlebotomist. I need to use the bathroom. I can get up and go to the bathroom on my own as long as the IV’s and electronic leads are untangled. For some reason the phlebotomist seems intent on helping me even though I don’t need it.
I also shower just before midday. This causes the nurses some concern because I disconnect everything. They left me waiting for forty-five minutes before I decided to go it alone.
The stay at the hospital has increased my anxiety. I know that I need to be here but I desperately want to go home and sleep in my own bed.
You will have only a handful of friends that you keep throughout your life. It’s not that you have a falling out with friends, most are transient in nature. If they get married and you don’t, they start finding other married friends to hang out with. If they have kids and you don’t, they will start hanging out with other people who have kids. You move to another city, a new job or other changing circumstances you will find that those old friends will replace you with new ones and you will do the same. There is nothing malicious about this, it just happens.
But you will have a handful of friends that will always be there. I haven’t seen one of best friends from college in years but we still chat pretty frequently. I can walk into a room right now and start giving McKinley hell about something (in that good natured way that guys always give each other hell) and we’ll pick up from the last time we had seen each other.
And sometimes you will have a falling out with friends. There are people that are negative in your life and you just need to let them go. I had a falling out with a couple of people in 2015. I stopped spending time with them. No need to get in the details about the falling out, we just stopped hanging out.
One of them reached out to me while I was in the hospital. He had seen (or been made aware) of my issues via mutual friends. He reached out, asked me how I was doing, and I updated him about my situation. It was a friendly conversation until it took an ugly turn.
“You need to tell Kelly and Jerry not to post your business on Facebook,” he said via text.
I didn’t understand where this was coming from. I asked Kelly and Jerry to update people. I had a lot going on, was often unsure how to respond to people and tied up with doctors or nurses when I wasn’t trying to sleep. Kelly and Jerry had the biggest reach to everyone I know. Both of those people went out of their way to help me and I am indebted to them.
“They are both competing with each other to get the biggest scoop on your life,” he said.
“I’ll let them know that they shouldn’t do that,” I responded back to him. Then I put the phone done. I have no idea what prompted this bizarre rant but I wanted nothing more to do with this guy. He sent me additional text messages over the next several days but I never responded.
After that message I became cautious as to what I should say to people.
Aside from that brief and bizarre episode everyone has been positive to me throughout this. I am grateful to everyone who visited or helped me in someway. Oftentimes I am overwhelmed with all of the support and don’t know what to do with it all.